In Utah there is a debate brewing about a new sex education program being proposed for public schools. This proposal gives parents the choice between a curriculum that teaches abstinence, and one that teaches birth control, condoms, and other parts of safe sex. This subject is not new to controversy. However, the controversy tends to be on what to teach not whether or not to teach it at all.
While there is merit to both sides of the argument, and I believe that giving the parents the option of which program to choose is better than the current system, for me, it still misses the key point. How about option C: Don't teach it at all.
Parents now days are starting to slip into a mindset that it is the schools job to raise their inconvenient little tax breaks. If the schools can teach them about sex, then perhaps that saves the parent the awkward conversation - right? Since I don't believe that sex education should be an awkward conversation to begin with, I disagree with the school teaching it entirely. Sex is not a topic that should be unclear to parents and therefore it should not be unclear to the children. After all it was sex that brought those kids into the world to begin with. Sex has a time and place in life and society. If healthy sexuality is taught to children (by parents) then perhaps some of the mysticism and draw that this "taboo" topic is given might result in a more balanced society.
At the heart of the discussion is the principle that parents are to raise their children, not schools. Schools teach about topics of civic responsibility. English, history, math, and others that help to build a more productive and educated society - not necessarily a more moral society. It is my thinking that classes on citizenship should be taught. Meaning, seniors can be taught how you prepare basic taxes, basic laws of the land, what it means to be a responsible and voting citizen. Instead we are teaching children how to put on condoms and the best way to "get some" and not take responsibility for their actions. Not being that far off from my high school days, I remember that people learned about sex well before they entered a sex ed class. And even if an individual hadn't learned about sex up until that point, why push sex on someone who has not shown any interest by way of a mandatory program?
If a child has sex, that action is between their partner and the respective parents. This is not a matter for civilized society to enter into and should be left the responsibility of the parents. The more responsibility schools take away from parenting the less parents will learn responsible parenting. With each passing generation, the example set is one of responsibility avoidance. To what end?