Wednesday, June 2, 2010
For Better or For Worse: What does that even mean?
Understanding that much of what people intend this phrase to imply, namely that a couple is willing to stay together through good times and bad, is a good idea in theory. In another sense, the two commit to staying together regardless the circumstances they find themselves in. But is that true? Is that wise? How much "worse" and what kind of "worse" are not detailed, but in my opinion, is very relevant to the marriage contract.
Of course, one would assume that couples would like to stay together through the good times, the "better". Experience has shown that the "worse" is unavoidable and therefore there is a need to make sure that one another is committed to not only sticking around through these tough times, but is also committed to minimizing these moments of "worse". Current divorce rates show that this promise seems to hold little water to people today as divorce rates have risen above 50%. Either people don't know how to be married, or they are unwilling to maintain this promise made at the marriage alter.
In order for people to get married today they must go and get a marriage license, a marriage permit of sorts where they pay their fee and then the government says "Okay, get married." Due to the social and public implications that marriage and family has on society today, would it be in line to make it so that, like obtaining a gun handlers permit, or a food handlers permit, or a license to practice medicine or real estate, that a certain amount of education should be required to obtain a marriage license? Would this help to explain the vows, the commitments, the legal ramifications of becoming married? Would this reduce the Las Vegas wedding "mistakes" and give greater emphasis on the importance of the marriage commitment thus improving the overall status of marriage in society today?
Perhaps the more understanding and education given to marriage the less likely marriage will be entered into under false ideals thus increasing the value of marriage in the minds and hearts of the people. In this way, this might reduce the number of individuals who seem to lack a necessary understanding of what it means to be together for better or worse.